Mary Ellen Emmerson

**************PLEASE READ 30/07/09 ******************

Hi to all our GTS friends I am so sorry that we havent lit any candles in such a long time but my
mum Susan is in hospital with septicemia and gangreen, without going into to much detail, they've
cut out half of the back of her right leg so it's a long road to recovery and with my grandad still
in bad health I just cant get on to light for our angels, mums been in hospital 4 weeks now and they
think she'll be in at least another 6 weeks, then she'll need care when she gets home for about 6
months, but as soon as she's home and settled we'll start again (fingers crossed) thank you for
lighting Marys way while we carnt love Carly xxxxx

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Mary Ellen Emmerson,
Born: 3 March 1923
Died 17 September 2007,
Age 84,
HouseWife
Jarrow, North-East England,
2 Daughters, 6 grandchildren,
Pneumonia, Stroke, Septesemia,
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A thank you to all the people who visit Mary's page and help us get through the day .

WE THANK YOU ,LORD FOR ALLOWING US THE CHANCE TO SEE YOUR LOVE.
FOR YOU SENT TO US AN ANGEL WHO NOW DWELLS WITH YOU ABOVE. COULD YOU PLEASE JUST TAKE A MINUTE AND
HOLD OUR ANGEL TIGHT,
TELL HER THAT WE LOVE HER AND THINK OF HER EACH NIGHT.
WE MISS HER MORE THAN WORDS CAN SAY AND ALTHOUGH OUR HEARTS ARE GONE.
ASK HER TO WATCH OVER US ,TIL YOU ALSO CALL US HOME.
WE'LL GO NOW, LORD AND THANKS AGAIN FOR HEARING THIS PRAYER OF OURS.
WE NOW KNOW WE WERE LUCKY,'CAUSE ANGELS ARE HARD TO FIND.
JUST ONE MORE THING BEFORE WE GO...
WE WANT TO THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN,
YOU KNEW WE WERE NOT IN THIS ALONE AND SENT A GROUP OF FRIENDS.
WE SHARE OUR THOUGHTS,AND DON'T HAVE TO FEAR IF WE NEED TO BREAK DOWN AND CRY,
THEY UNDERSTAND THE WAY WE FEEL BECAUSE THEY ALSO SAID GOOD-BYE.
THEIR ANGELS ARE THERE WITH YOU TOO, AND WE ASK YOU TO WATCH OVER THEM 'TIL THE END.
WE LOVE THEM ALL,AND THANK YOU LORD,FOR ALL OF OUR GONE TOO SOON FRIENDS!
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This woman was an amazing lady. Even though she had alot to put up with since she had her fisrt
stroke on 2nd December 2006, she smiled through all of it. Her family meant the world to her. She
was a loving wife to James Emmerson for nearly 59 years. She missed this anniversary by just 8 days.
She always put us first. I was one of her 4 grandchildren, and we always felt loved by her. She
helped raise me and my sister, so she was like another mum to us. She will be forever missed by
everyone who knew her. She touched everyone's heart. My sister set up and wrote the first part of
our Grandma's page like our Grandma and Mum she is an amazing young woman she's only 14 and shes
said I can add to the story of Mary so here goes Mary was born on the 3rd March 1923 the middle
child of 3 her mum was a nurse & a Housewife her Dad a Coal Miner, Mary was a very intelligant woman
in a time when women were destined to be housewives and instilled education into her children even
as a young girl the fighting spirit that would serve her well in later life was there she suffered a
bad bought of diptheria as a child and was in hospital for a long time because of it with doctors
saying she wouldnt pull through, but as usual she proved people wrong about her and made a full
recovery in 1939 at the age of 16 she voluntered to join the ATS where she was sent to work in Kent
as a Office Clerk & Stock Control where she stayed till the war ended in March 1948 she met Jim our
Granddad and they married on the 25th of September that year who she was with for 59 yrs they had
two Daughters together and between them they gave them 6 Grandchildren although dont expect to see
them on this page 2 of our Cousins died 1 as a result of a cot death the other 2 and there mother
walked out of our lives 10 years ago for reasons unknown and that broke Marys heart but our mum
Susan Myself and sister are regular visitors our mum moved in to look after Grandma 16 yr ago as she
wasnt as young as she used to be although she was very independant arthritus had took a bit of a
hold from 1989 Mary had 4 heart attacks but again she came through it she really was a very brave
woman on the 2nd December 2006 she suffered a massive Stroke that paralysed her down her right side
and took out her speach and swallow although she regained some swallow in the 12 weeks she was on
the Stroke Unit what shocked everyone was the resilliance she had she never cried or moaned and
always smiled through it for us she came home on Valentines day 2007 and our mum Susan and myself
became her full time careres a job we would have done till the end of time given the chance in June
we noticed a mark on her right foot that looked like a massive blood blister that the District
Nurses blamed on our level of Care something we argueed against we knew they were wrong but
something we would learn to our cost when they get a idea in there heads you cant shift it after 3
weeks of begging the district nurses daily and our GP weekly we phoned an ambulance because Mary had
had nothing to eat and very little to drink for 3 weeks our GP told us that she was 84 let her go
but as long as she fought we would and when we got her to hospital she had a massive pneumonia a
common problem in stroke victims and had lost her swallow completely another 2 weeks passed before
they feed her with an NG tube because the nurses wernt sure but with some help from PALS we got a
PEG tube fitted so we could feed her through her stomach it was there that they realised her foot
which now resembled a scene from CSI was a form of Gangreen that bedbound people suffer from 5 weeks
passed on that ward before she came home as bubbley and interactive as ever
we had her at home 3 weeks when we noticed a crackle on her Chest and yet again phoned our GP the
distict Nurses and Community Matron said she was fine nothing to worry about our GP came in 3 times
the week before she died The Community Matron twice and the District Nurses daily and two emergancy
doctors all who gave her the all clear nothing to worry about on the 14 september after a week of
constant blood chilling moaning from Mary that we were told was for attention even though it was out
of character for her my mother and I went to get her ready for the day when we saw that her legs up
to her waist looked like corned beef her hands were purple and she was foaming at the mouth we
called an ambulance her heart stopped twice in the house and when we got her into hospital she again
had a massive pneumonia as well as scepticemia and all her veins had collepsed so IV antibiotics
were not an option but she tried her best to pull through and on monday the 17th September she was
showing signs of progress they even started her PEG feed again the nurses came in to change her and
we went out for 5 mins taking comfort in that she was getting better when we went back her face was
in the pillow and she was having a second massive stroke that affected her left side and took her on
to the other side we were devistated, Mary was cremated on her 59 Wedding Anniversary, her other
daughter and grandchildren didnt attend they were told thery were told about her first stroke and
there reply was it's her age and to be expected, please dont feel sorry for us we were lucky we knew
her all our lives and that was a gift and from her first stroke to the day she died we were with her
24/7 but do i beg you listen to this, question your doctor if you think there wrong Mary trusted
them and they failled her taking her blood thinning tablets off her 2 weeks before her first stroke
thank you for listening sorry for banging on Carly