| Location | Jarrow |
| Age | 84 years |
| Cause of Death | Pneumonia |
| Date of Birth | 03/03/1923 |
| Date of Death | 17/09/2007 |
| Visitors | 31,389 since 13/10/2007 |
| Creator |
**************PLEASE READ 30/07/09 ******************
Hi to all our GTS friends I am so sorry that we havent lit any candles in such a long time but my
mum Susan is in hospital with septicemia and gangreen, without going into to much detail, they've
cut out half of the back of her right leg so it's a long road to recovery and with my grandad still
in bad health I just cant get on to light for our angels, mums been in hospital 4 weeks now and they
think she'll be in at least another 6 weeks, then she'll need care when she gets home for about 6
months, but as soon as she's home and settled we'll start again (fingers crossed) thank you for
lighting Marys way while we carnt love Carly xxxxx
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Mary Ellen Emmerson,
Born: 3 March 1923
Died 17 September 2007,
Age 84,
HouseWife
Jarrow, North-East England,
2 Daughters, 6 grandchildren,
Pneumonia, Stroke, Septesemia,
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A thank you to all the people who visit Mary's page and help us get through the day .
WE THANK YOU ,LORD FOR ALLOWING US THE CHANCE TO SEE YOUR LOVE.
FOR YOU SENT TO US AN ANGEL WHO NOW DWELLS WITH YOU ABOVE. COULD YOU PLEASE JUST TAKE A MINUTE AND
HOLD OUR ANGEL TIGHT,
TELL HER THAT WE LOVE HER AND THINK OF HER EACH NIGHT.
WE MISS HER MORE THAN WORDS CAN SAY AND ALTHOUGH OUR HEARTS ARE GONE.
ASK HER TO WATCH OVER US ,TIL YOU ALSO CALL US HOME.
WE'LL GO NOW, LORD AND THANKS AGAIN FOR HEARING THIS PRAYER OF OURS.
WE NOW KNOW WE WERE LUCKY,'CAUSE ANGELS ARE HARD TO FIND.
JUST ONE MORE THING BEFORE WE GO...
WE WANT TO THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN,
YOU KNEW WE WERE NOT IN THIS ALONE AND SENT A GROUP OF FRIENDS.
WE SHARE OUR THOUGHTS,AND DON'T HAVE TO FEAR IF WE NEED TO BREAK DOWN AND CRY,
THEY UNDERSTAND THE WAY WE FEEL BECAUSE THEY ALSO SAID GOOD-BYE.
THEIR ANGELS ARE THERE WITH YOU TOO, AND WE ASK YOU TO WATCH OVER THEM 'TIL THE END.
WE LOVE THEM ALL,AND THANK YOU LORD,FOR ALL OF OUR GONE TOO SOON FRIENDS!
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This woman was an amazing lady. Even though she had alot to put up with since she had her fisrt
stroke on 2nd December 2006, she smiled through all of it. Her family meant the world to her. She
was a loving wife to James Emmerson for nearly 59 years. She missed this anniversary by just 8 days.
She always put us first. I was one of her 4 grandchildren, and we always felt loved by her. She
helped raise me and my sister, so she was like another mum to us. She will be forever missed by
everyone who knew her. She touched everyone's heart. My sister set up and wrote the first part of
our Grandma's page like our Grandma and Mum she is an amazing young woman she's only 14 and shes
said I can add to the story of Mary so here goes Mary was born on the 3rd March 1923 the middle
child of 3 her mum was a nurse & a Housewife her Dad a Coal Miner, Mary was a very intelligant woman
in a time when women were destined to be housewives and instilled education into her children even
as a young girl the fighting spirit that would serve her well in later life was there she suffered a
bad bought of diptheria as a child and was in hospital for a long time because of it with doctors
saying she wouldnt pull through, but as usual she proved people wrong about her and made a full
recovery in 1939 at the age of 16 she voluntered to join the ATS where she was sent to work in Kent
as a Office Clerk & Stock Control where she stayed till the war ended in March 1948 she met Jim our
Granddad and they married on the 25th of September that year who she was with for 59 yrs they had
two Daughters together and between them they gave them 6 Grandchildren although dont expect to see
them on this page 2 of our Cousins died 1 as a result of a cot death the other 2 and there mother
walked out of our lives 10 years ago for reasons unknown and that broke Marys heart but our mum
Susan Myself and sister are regular visitors our mum moved in to look after Grandma 16 yr ago as she
wasnt as young as she used to be although she was very independant arthritus had took a bit of a
hold from 1989 Mary had 4 heart attacks but again she came through it she really was a very brave
woman on the 2nd December 2006 she suffered a massive Stroke that paralysed her down her right side
and took out her speach and swallow although she regained some swallow in the 12 weeks she was on
the Stroke Unit what shocked everyone was the resilliance she had she never cried or moaned and
always smiled through it for us she came home on Valentines day 2007 and our mum Susan and myself
became her full time careres a job we would have done till the end of time given the chance in June
we noticed a mark on her right foot that looked like a massive blood blister that the District
Nurses blamed on our level of Care something we argueed against we knew they were wrong but
something we would learn to our cost when they get a idea in there heads you cant shift it after 3
weeks of begging the district nurses daily and our GP weekly we phoned an ambulance because Mary had
had nothing to eat and very little to drink for 3 weeks our GP told us that she was 84 let her go
but as long as she fought we would and when we got her to hospital she had a massive pneumonia a
common problem in stroke victims and had lost her swallow completely another 2 weeks passed before
they feed her with an NG tube because the nurses wernt sure but with some help from PALS we got a
PEG tube fitted so we could feed her through her stomach it was there that they realised her foot
which now resembled a scene from CSI was a form of Gangreen that bedbound people suffer from 5 weeks
passed on that ward before she came home as bubbley and interactive as ever
we had her at home 3 weeks when we noticed a crackle on her Chest and yet again phoned our GP the
distict Nurses and Community Matron said she was fine nothing to worry about our GP came in 3 times
the week before she died The Community Matron twice and the District Nurses daily and two emergancy
doctors all who gave her the all clear nothing to worry about on the 14 september after a week of
constant blood chilling moaning from Mary that we were told was for attention even though it was out
of character for her my mother and I went to get her ready for the day when we saw that her legs up
to her waist looked like corned beef her hands were purple and she was foaming at the mouth we
called an ambulance her heart stopped twice in the house and when we got her into hospital she again
had a massive pneumonia as well as scepticemia and all her veins had collepsed so IV antibiotics
were not an option but she tried her best to pull through and on monday the 17th September she was
showing signs of progress they even started her PEG feed again the nurses came in to change her and
we went out for 5 mins taking comfort in that she was getting better when we went back her face was
in the pillow and she was having a second massive stroke that affected her left side and took her on
to the other side we were devistated, Mary was cremated on her 59 Wedding Anniversary, her other
daughter and grandchildren didnt attend they were told thery were told about her first stroke and
there reply was it's her age and to be expected, please dont feel sorry for us we were lucky we knew
her all our lives and that was a gift and from her first stroke to the day she died we were with her
24/7 but do i beg you listen to this, question your doctor if you think there wrong Mary trusted
them and they failled her taking her blood thinning tablets off her 2 weeks before her first stroke
thank you for listening sorry for banging on Carly
for you
Do not stand at my grave
and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the
morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft star that shines
at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there; I did not die.
saw this and thought of you grandma
When tomorrow starts without me, and I’m not there to see
If the sun should rise and find your eyes are filled with tears for me
I wish so much you wouldn’t cry the way you did today
While thinking of the many things we didn’t get to say
I know how much you loved me, as much as I loved you
And each time you think of me I know you'll miss me too
But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand
That an angel came and called my name and took me by the hand
He said my place was ready in heaven far above
And that I’d have to leave those I dearly love
But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye
For all my life I always thought I didn't want to die
I had so much to live for and so much to do
It almost seemed impossible that I was leaving you
I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad
I thought of all the love we shared and all the fun we had
If I could re-live yesterday, I thought for just a while
I’d say goodbye and kiss you and maybe see you smile
Then I realized fully that this was not to be
For emptiness and memories would take the place of me
But when I walked through heavens gates I felt so much at home
When god looked down and smiled at me from his great golden throne
He said this is eternity and all I promised you
Today your life on earth has passed but here it starts anew
I promise no tomorrows, but today will always last
And each day’s a new day there’s no longing for the past
Now you've been forgiven and at last from pain you’re free
So wont you come and take my hand and share your life with me
When tomorrow starts without me, don’t think were far apart
For every time you think of me I’ll be right there in your heart
Grandma I read this out at your funeral thanks for the help with it
Stop all the Clocks,Cut off the telephone,
Prevent the Dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the Pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the Coffin, let the mourners come.
Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message She is dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public Doves,
Let the traffic Policemen wear black cotton gloves.
She was our North, our South, Our East and West
Our working week and our Sunday rest,
Our noon, Our midnight, Our talk, Our Song;
We thought she would last forever: We were wrong.
The stars are not wanted now:
Put out every one;
Pack up the moon
and dismantle the Sun;
Pour away the Ocean
and Sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.
goodnight sweet lady
mary was a sweet lady she was a brilliant wife to jim, brilliant mam to susan and a fantastic grandma to carly and max (little tarts) mary would find these words funny. this last year was tough for her but she never lost her sparkle nothing got her down even when she had her stroke. jim not only lost his wife of 59 years but he lost his best friend as did susan and the girls. love les xxxx
In Sympathy
So sorry for your loss. Your story has touched my heart. I totally sympathise with the treatment you received from the NHS, and agree with you wholeheartedly about questioning if you don't agree with them. My nan passed away in July and it feels like my whole world has been taken away. My dad and the family are trying to fight her corner with the NHS which is so hard to do when you are still grieving. My thoughts are with you. God bless. I hope you find this poem of comfort, as I have done. x
What is Dying?
A ship sails and I stand watching till she fades on the horizon and someone at my side says 'She is gone'.
Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all. She is just as large now as when I last saw her. Her diminished size and total loss from my sight is in me, not in her.
And just at the moment when someone at my side says she is gone there are others who are watching her coming over their horizon and other voices take up a glad shout 'There she comes!'
That is what dying is. An horizon and just the limit of our sight.
Lift us up, Oh Lord, that we may see further.
To mum(my rock)
when you had your first stroke you lost your speach so we learned to read the signs you lost the use of your right side so we pushed you round in a wheelchair you lost your swallow so you couldn't eat or drink so we got them to fit a tube into your tummy to feed+water you.you didn't lose your courage, your dignity,or your smile which you put to good use every day+got your family through what we thought was the hard times.we thought we had it all worked out then you got pneumonia,scepticemia+a second massive stroke+god released you thankfully from the pain.what we hadn't worked out was how am i going to mend my broken heart without you.i love+miss you more everyday.luv ya mum.your heartbroken daughter susan
send me a angel lord
SEND ME MY ANGEL
Lord, Send Me My Angel
To Watch Over Me
To Guide Me In The Direction
You Want Me To Be
So That I May Help Someone
Down Here Below
To Carry Their Burdens
That Are Beyond Our Control
Teach Me How To Tell Them
That It’s Okay To Cry
When an Angel
Is Pulled From Them....
...And You Choose For Them To Die
And Take Them To Heaven
In Your Precious Arms
To Hold Them So Closely
From All Of Earth’s Harm
Teach Me To Show Them
To Lean On You
When Nights
Are Long And Lonely...
...You Will See Them Through
Give Me The Message
That They Need To Hear
To Let Them Know
That You Are Always Near
Teach Me To Show Them
How To Take A Firm Stand
And Lay All Their Worries
In The Palm Of Your Hand
And Hold On To Memories
And Never Let Go
Keep Leaning On Jesus
Because He Loves You So...
'God's Garden Must Be Beautiful'
God saw you getting tired,
When a cure was not to be.
So He wrapped His arms around you,
And whispered, 'Come to Me'.
You didn't deserve what you went through,
So He gave you rest.
God's garden must be beautiful,
He only picks the best.
And when I saw you sleeping,
So peaceful and free from pain,
I could not wish you back
To suffer that again. - Author Unknown
To my loving Family
I watch you every morning open your eyes
I see your face filled with grief when you realise
Today is another day that you can't see me
I watch the tears run down your face
I look as you try getting through another day
I loved you with all of my heart you know thats true
That stays the same and it always will
On that night when god came to take me home
I knew you were with me I wasnt alone
I was so ready to be free from the pain
I wanted to do the things I couldnt again
You were my Husband, My Daughter & My Grandchildren
My ever loving family that I hold so dear
I havnt left you, you know I never would
Can you feel me guide & hold you
When you need me the most
I am at peace, I am free from pain
I can look after my loving family again
Do not cry for me remember my smile
Do not miss me 'I havnt gone away'
Everynight I said 'If you need me just call me'
Well that is what I want to say, if you need me
just call for me I haven't gone away.
From mary
Your Wife, Your Mum, Your Grandma.
Goodnight I love you & I will see you in the morning
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
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